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In most of the cultures death is explained as an absurd accident, as a consequence of the fault of the ancestors so that a death person, good or bad, must be send back to them by burying them with dignity as the ancestors have been buried. This is because death reveals itself as an event so incomprehensible that this explanation is more convincing precisely because it is paradoxical. On the other hand, to reflect well, we are not immune from this need to consider death the expiation of some error of the past, because basically we have never accepted it as natural and unnatural is then the rite of a burial and its ceremonies. We are always ready, today more than yesterday, to tie a fatal illness to a fault: the physical evil coincides with moral evil, so that a burial of a death person becomes then a mystery novel in which we must find a culprit to be then subdued with rites and invocations.

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Burial traditions in Mindanao a showcase of rich culture In death as in life, the burial traditions of the peoples and cultures of Mindanao are a showcase of the richness and the diversity of the island’s way of life. From the lush, green hinterland villages of the Mamanuas in Surigao del Sur to the blue seas hugging the shores of the Tausug land in Sulu, the burial traditions of these tribal groups vary in texture, color, values and meanings.

In past centuries, for the Manobos living in the hinterland areas straddling the places now known as Davao City, Davao del Sur, Bukidnon and North Cotabato, the dead were either laid on a platform built beside a tree, or wrapped in a mat and bamboo slats and hung up a tree. After the funeral, the relatives of the deceased abandon their dwellings and clearing. E. Arsenio Manuel, a University of the Philippines anthropology professor who conducted ethnographic studies of the Manobos in the 1960s, noted in his book “Manuvu Social Organization” that the tribe’s funeral practices only reflect their semi-sedentary way of life. But Manuel said that in the 20th century, as the United States colonial government introduced the abaca plantation system, the Manobos abandoned the practice of “tree burial” and shifted to burying their dead under their houses. He said with the new burial practice, the Manobos no longer abandoned their dwellings and continued with the cultivation of their clearings. Wakes among the Ata-Manobos, the tribe occupying the forest areas straddling parts of Davao City and the towns of Talaingod and Kapalong in Davao del Norte, are the only occasion where antuk (riddles) are taught by the elders to the young people. Edmund Industan of the Department of Sociology and Anthropology in Xavier University in Cagayan de Oro City, wrote in his article, “Education Among the Ata-Manobo” in Gimba magazine that the tribe believes that teaching antuks in occasions other than the wake would lead to misfortunes or bring bad luck to the entire community. “If someone want to learn the antuks, he should attend any funeral wake,” Industan noted. In an Ata-Manobo wake, a widowed husband usually lies beside his deceased wife while relatives and friends sit around them. Some pass the time telling the riddles while others chant, according to an ethnographic account in the 1995 Gimba Magazine. During the wake chanting (uwahingan), singing, dancing, playing instruments (tagungguan) are conducted to alleviated the pervading grief.

In the spirit world of the T’boli, one of Mindanao’s most colorful tribes living around Lake Sebu, a person is believed to be a “composite of body and spirit,” notes an ethnographic account written by Dr. Erlinda Burton, executive director of the Research Institute on Mindanao Cultures in Xavier University. Burton, in her article “T’boli, A Mini-Ethnography” originally published in Gimba Magazine, said the T’boli believes that the spirit leaves the body when it is asleep and returns to awake it. Death happens when the spirit leaves the body permanently, or is taken away by an evil spirit called busao, Burton wrote. The body is laid on a boat-shaped wooden coffin tightly sealed with a tree resin to prevent the odor of the decomposition process. A T’boli wake may last from a week to five months but if the dead is highly respected by the community, his or her wake may last for a year. At the end of the wake, the wooden coffin will be placed over a fire but the fluid that oozes through the burning wood is collected and used as sauce for their sweet potato meals. “In this manner, they believe the desirable qualities of the deceased will pass on to them,” Burton wrote. Burton also noted that T’bolis have no specific burial ground so they bury the dead anywhere. But the interment is done only at night and that after the burial, the community partakes of a feast and leaves portions of the food in the grave. After the feast, the dead’s possessions are destroyed. After the burial, the mourners perform rituals to cleanse and rid themselves of evil spirits. The mourners jump over two swords fixed on the ground and later purify themselves in the river or any body of water, Burton said.

The Mamanuas in Surigao del Norte believe in the existence of two souls — one free to wander at will in the realm of dreams and in the unconscious; the other leaving the body upon death but venturing into unclear directions. Lovenia Parcon Naces in “The Mamanuas,” an article also published in Gima, noted that the spiritual beliefs of the Mamanuas explain why they leave their settlement whenever a member of the community dies. She said the Mamanuas fear that the spirit of the dead may return to harm them. Naces, who based her short ethnographic piece on the book The Culture of the Mamanua of Dr. Marcelino Maceda of the University of San Carlos in Cebu City, said the tribe buries the dead on the same day the person dies. They wrap the body in palm leaves or in a mat and place it in a coffin. The dead is buried either in a standing or sitting position. In the past, they also practiced platform burial mainly for the chief or the warriors of the tribe. In recent times, as soon as the grave is covered with soil, relatives of the deceased leave fire, water, and food for the dead. They then mourn their dead for nine days, and offer prayers for the repose of the dead’s soul. Among the Mamanuas living along the Lianga and Angdanan River in Surigao del Norte, the relatives of the dead return to the burial site after some time to exhume the larger bones and the skull of the dead for medicinal purposes. Naces also wrote that the Mamanuas believe that the land of the dead lies to the west of their ancestral areas, particularly in the mountain ranges of Diwata spanning the provinces of Surigao del Norte, Surigao del Sur and Compostela Valley. The Mamanuas also believe that a forest of durian fruit trees or an island rich in fruits also attracts the dead.

The Tausugs, or the people of the current, in Sulu are identified distinctly from other ethnic groups in the country by their festivals and ceremonies for the dead, Tausug scholar Juanito Alli Bruno wrote in his book, “The Social World of the Tausugs.” Bruno, then acting president of the Western Mindanao State University in Zamboanga City, noted that since the Tausugs are basically Muslims, they observe the Sunna which he describes as “the rigid conduct of Islam.” He said that there are four requirements to be performed on the dead: the Sutchihun, to bathe and cleanse the corpse; Saputun, wrapping the body in a shroud; Sambayanganun, performing the obligatory prayer of the dead; and the Hikubul, to bury him. Bruno wrote that a Tausug grave is dug following a north-to-south direction and measures six to nine feet. At this depth, a chamber of about two feet wide, which the Tausug calls the paliyangan, is dug on its west side. Bruno said a religious man would lower himself into such a hallow and say the tulkin or the prayer for the dead. Tausugs believe that such a practice drives evil spirits away and cleanses the final resting place of the dead. Bruno said the paliyangan is sealed with slabs which the Tausug refer to as the ding ding hali, literally meaning “wall of rest.” The funeral ends with the recitation of prayers led by a religious man or an imam if one is around.

For the Badjao, the body of the dead person is laid at the center, parallel to the sacred side wall, of the floating hut, called Umboh. This position ‘removes’ the death from the opposite orientation of the living (see ‘Celebration with the Sun’, of Bruno Bottignolo, pag. 236-248). During the wake there are homages to the dead, mostly food. The usual ‘Song of the Dead’ evokes a custom widespread among the Muslims. It is repeated continuously. The funeral preparation begin with the mesured cutting of the bandages for wrapping the dead body. These, with cords, are washed in fresh water. The bath of the body is done by the imam who will wash it starting from the hands. All the orificies of the body are carefully cleaned. After the bath the dead person is  dressed and place on the floor, above three or four dry and decorated tepoh. The hands covered with a white linen. The bandage is done by the imam who takes a corner of a sheet near the a shoulder and pulls it over across the body to the waist. In the middle of the cerimony the imam stops the process of bandaging for the final salute with prayers. Then when the dead person is enclosed in a cocoon a batik is spread over as decoration. The burial must be done inside the 24 hours after the death. At the cemetery the imam enter first. The place is full of spirits which must be calmed down. With incense, he prays at the four  corners of the grave.  Badjao graves are not very deep, less than a meter. On the grave, above the head, is placed a special oblonged stone called ‘sundok’. After the wake done in the hut of the death person, the imam will take the spirit to the tomb and released on the ‘sundok’. As time goes by, the stone will become the very icon of the spirit of the dead person.

In his history of Mindanao and Sulu, published in 1667, Father Francisco Combes calls the Subanu the “fourth nation of Mindanao” and refers to them as the inhabitants of the rivers, to which they owe their name, as the radical suba is the “word used by the nations (tribes) of Mindanaofor river. Lieut.Col. John Parkinlay (1913) in his Subanen Burial Customs tells that when death was the results of ordinary causes the body was usually buried in a grove of trees which serves as a cemetery for several families. On the other hand during epidemics of smallpox and cholera the bodies were frequently left in the abandoned huts or cast into the rivers and sea in order to destroy, if possible, the cause of the contagion. Usually the balian (shaman), man or woman, is called in to minister to the sick, and entire reliance is placed upon his judgment in the employment of herbs and prayers to drive away the evil spirits which are believed to produce the illness. Medicine and religion are so closely allied in daily life that the herbs used in medication are considered quite ineffective unless administered by the balian. If the deceased is a male adult the women of his family engage in wild lamentations while others prepare the body for burial. The body may be encased in a wooden receptacle hollowed out from a tree, or wrapped up in mats securely bound about with strips of bejuco or bamboo. The graves are marked by carved pieces of wood and decorated by a varied arrangement of stones and shells. Bodies are sometimes placed for burial in natural caves where available, and in the hollow trunks of large trees. Some buried grounds are located on a top of a hill sometimes surrounded by lines of trees. Together with the body was buried also Chinese Jars which contained offerings for the dead in the journey to the afterworld. In some cases to avoid the unearthing of the dead by dogs the bodies were buried near the house and sometimes under the house, especially in the case of children. If near the house shelters were erected over the graves and the spot was in closed with a fence of split bamboo or poles.  Subanens have several types of songs, Geloy is a funeral song. It is usually sung by two singers, one of them being the balian, during a Gukas, the ritual ceremony performed as a memorial for the death of a high ranking member ofthe community. It is accompanied by the ritualistic offering of food and wine (Pangasi) poured onto the earth. Then the chanting moves inside the house.

Two other cerimonies are important: buklug timala and the puluntuh. These celrbrations provide a contrast to the rather simple funeral and burial. Mourning take place in the home with the body present and accompanied by loud waling. Friends and family gather for food and fasting. A balian burn incense, beats a bowl, and touches the posts of the room with tha blood of a freshly killed cock to drive away the eveil spirits before the body is taken down for burial. The burial is simple. the body is wrapped in a white cloth and laid in a hollowed-out log coffin. Funerary objects include pieces of broken pottery, knives, betel boxes, and some food offerings. The coffin is borne away with no procession to a shallow grave in an nearby grove of trees previously chosen as a cemetery. Sometimes shelter will be built over the grave, a small mound raised or a carved wooden marker added.

Buklud Timala

It always precedes the puluntuh. The Timala functions is a liberating cerimony for those relatives living in the same house as the deceased. A death causes members of the household to be subjected to rigorous religious taboo, or mourning prohibitions called li-ing as:

Prohibition of marriage: marriage before the Timala takes place is considered scandalous and certain to bring misfortune. Prohibition of gong-beating, dancing and festivities. No colorful clothes may be worn. White is the usual color. The principal mourner, the person closest to the deceased, refrains from wahing and grooming his/her person and wears old and shabby clothes unchanged  and canot leave the house until Timala is completed. No litigation or transaction are allowed.

The Buklud-Timala takes place in two o three weeks after the burial and lasts for part of a evening. On the evening one balian burns incence and beat a bowl and the food on the altar is consumed. On other balian invokes the spirits to approach the altar. The previous balian dances around the altar. Then the two balian change roles. And so on. Then the cerimony is interrupted to cook rice and chicken to be returned to the altar. The large gongs hung in the house are beaten joyfully and the principal mourner leaves the house, casts off the dirty clothes and combs and clips his/her hair. So the period of mourning is over and the festive food and drink are consumed by the participants.

Puluntuh

It takes place few months after the timala when the family can gather sufficient means to hold one. The puluntuh starts before sunset and last til mid-morning of the next day. A platform for dancing it is raised and large amounts of rice beer, rice, chicken and pork, betel quids and eggs are collected for the occasion.

The pourpose of puluntuh is to invoke diwata to come to the feast and protect the partecipant from the evil spirits. The action takes place around two small altar, one each for male and female diwata. After asking the diwatas to protect the people a small pig is killed and offered. the blood is then smeared on the supporting beams of the dancing platform. Invocations take place on the platform wher five balians take part in the offerings with sequences of incensing, dancing, bowlbeatings The offering takes place on a passageway from the porch of the house to the platform, without dancing and repeated several times. An altar is place in the middle of the house with the same but more elaborated offerings and dancings. The altar is large draped with men’s and women’s clothing. There is the same sequences of rites. This phase is called the freeing of the dead. Then a balian kills a rooster after pronouncing a specific and misterious formula. This signifies that the dead are now avenged and freed.  The bird is cooked and place on the altar. After other and similar cerimonies the altar is hoisted up under the roof of the house.

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From “A WOMAN’S IMPRESSION” by Mary Helen Fee

Observations of an american women in 1910 regarding the filipino burials. (from Project Gutemberg: www.gutenberg.net)

Sickbeds and Funerals

Filipinos are punctilious about many things concerning which we have passed the extremely punctilious stage. Some of their strictest observances are in the matters of sickness and death. The sick have what we would consider a hard time. To begin with, they are immured in rooms from which, as far as possible, all light and air are excluded. In a tropical climate, where the breeze is almost indispensable to comfort, the reader may imagine the result. Then all their relatives, near and far, flock to see them; they crowd the apartment, and insist on talking to keep the patient from becoming _triste_. When the sufferer finds this insupportable and gives up
the struggle to live, the whole clan, out to the last connection, set about preparing their mourning.

Every woman makes a black dress, and every man ties a band of black cloth around his white coat sleeve. When there is a wake, it is noisy enough to be Irish. Our Eastern friends resemble the Irish also in their love of a fine funeral. To go to the last resting-place escorted by a band and with all possible ceremony seems to make even death acceptable to them.

Among the very poor this ambition is quite disproportionate to their resources. The percentage of infant mortality, owing to poor nutrition, is especially high; yet babe after babe whose mother unwittingly starved it to death is given a funeral in which the baby carriage hearse is preceded by a local band, and hired mourners stalk solemnly behind the little coffin in place of the mother, who is, in etiquette, required to remain at home.

In Manila funerals resemble our own, save that the hearse, be it white for a child or black for an adult, is drawn by stately caparisoned horses, at the bridles of which stalk men in eighteenth-century court costumes, which include huge shoe buckles, black silk stockings, and powdered wigs. The carriages flock behind with little pretence of order, and at a sharper pace than is customary with us. The populace are, however, most respectful; rich and poor alike remove their hats when the funeral _cortege_ is passing.

In the provinces where there are no hearses, a funeral consists usually of a coffin carried on the shoulders of four men, and followed by a straggling concourse of mourners. If the corpse be that of a child, it not infrequently lies, gorgeously dressed, upon the blue-and-pink-beribboned cushions of a four-wheeled baby carriage. New-born babes are buried in tiny coffins covered with pink or blue cambric.

The Filipinos say that when a child dies its pure little soul goes straight to _gloria_, wherefore it is much to be congratulated on leaving this abode of sorrow for one of unending happiness, and only gay music is used at the funeral. The local bands play solely by ear, and make the most of whatever music they hear sung or whistled on the streets, with the result that strangely inappropriate selections are used on these occasions. At the first child’s funeral I ever saw, the band was playing “Hot Time,” and a friend to whom I related this fact, declared that at the first one he ever saw they were playing, “I don’t care if you never come back.” This sounds too fortuitously happy to be true, but it is quite within the possible.

When I had lived in Capiz a year or two, my washerman, or _lavandero_, died, and his widow, pointing to a numerous progeny, besought for an advance of five pesos for necessary funeral expenses. She wanted ten, but I refused to countenance that extravagance. She did not seem overcome by grief, and her plea of numerous offspring was really valueless, for, if anything, they were all better off than before. Her lord had been only a sham washerman, collecting the garments for her to wash, delivering them, and pocketing the returns, of which he gave her as small a moiety as would sustain life, and spent the rest on the cockpit.

Funerals in a country where there are no preservatives take place very soon. The lavandero died at dawn, his widow made her levy on me before seven o’clock, and, coming home that afternoon, I met the funeral in a thickly shaded lane. Local tradition disapproves of the appearance of near female relations at a funeral, so the dead man’s escort consisted only of the four bearers, and three small boys, all under eleven years of age. The coffin was one in general use–rented for the trip to the cemetery! Once there, the body, wrapped in its _petate_, or sleeping mat, would be rolled into a shallow grave.

The four bearers were dirty and were chewing betel-nut as they trudged along under their burden. Behind them came the dead man’s son, apparelled in a pair of blue denim trousers. His body, naked to the waist, was glistening brown after a bath, and he carried under one arm a fresh laundered _camisa_, or Chino shirt, of white muslin, to be put on when he reached the church.

His two supporters were the brothers of my _muchacha_, who lived in the same yard and who evidently had convictions about standing by a comrade in misfortune. The elder, a boy of seven, was fairly clean; but the younger, somewhere between three and five, was clad in a single low-necked slip of filthy pink cotton, which draped itself at a coquettish angle across his shoulders, and hung down two or three inches below his left knee. His smile, which was of a most engaging
nature, occupied so much of his countenance that it was difficult to find traces of the pride which actually radiated from the other two.

My curiosity was enough to make me turn and follow them to the church. There the body was deposited on the floor at the rear, just below a door in the gallery which led to the priest’s house, or _convento_. The bearers squatted on their heels and fell to wrapping up pieces of betel-nut in lime paste and _buya_ leaf, while a sacristan went to call the priest. The dead man’s son reverently put on his clean shirt, and the youngest urchin sucked his thumb and continued to grin at me.

Presently a priest came through the door and leaned over the gallery, followed by two sacristans, one bearing a censer and the other a bell. The censer-bearer swung his implement vindictively in the direction of the corpse, while the other rang a melodious chime on the bell. At this all the babies fell on their knees. The priest muttered a few lines of Latin, made the sign of the cross, and disappeared to another chime of the bells and a last toss of the censer. The bearers picked up the coffin, and the little procession went on its way to the cemetery. The ceremony lasted about one minute and a half, and consumed three out of my five pesos.

This incident illustrates neatly the friendless condition in which most Filipino poor live. Filipino lower-class people are gregarious, but not sociable. They are averse to solitary rural life and tend everywhere to live in villages, but they visit little with each other, and seem very indifferent to the cordial relations which bind our own laboring classes together.

In the same yard with the dead lavandero lived at least ten or twelve other families, yet no one could be found to accompany him to his grave save two play-mates of his son.

If the poor are fond of display, the rich outvie them. The pomp of a rich man’s obsequies finds its beginning while he is yet on earth, when the padre goes in state to administer extreme unction. His vehicle, a gilt coach which looks like the pictures of those of the seventeenth century, is often preceded by a band, while the priest within is arrayed in embroidered vestments. When the _surra_, or horse disease, had made a scarcity of those animals, the padre’s gilded equipage had
to be drawn by a cebu, or very small and weary-looking cow, imported from Indo-China. The spectacle of this yoke animal, the gilt coach, and the padre in all his vestments was one not to be forgotten.

When the rich man dies, there is generally a wake, noisy enough, as before stated, to be Irish, and a pretentious funeral. Five o’clock in the afternoon seems to be a favorite hour for this. In the rainy season, with sodden clouds hanging low in the sky, with almond trees dripping down, and the great church starred with candles which do not illuminate but which dot the gloom, the occasion is lugubrious indeed. Fresh flowers are little used, but _immortelles_ and set designs accompanied by long streamers of gilt-lettered ribbon attest the courtesy of friends.

They bury the dead–that is, all the upper-class dead–in _nichos_, or ovens, such as are found in the old cemeteries of New Orleans. The cemetery, which is usually owned, not by the municipality but by the church, is surrounded by a brick or stone wall six or eight feet high surmounted by a balustrade of red baked clay in an urn design. The ovens form their back walls against this, and are arranged in tiers of four or five, so that the top of the ovens makes a fine promenade around three sides of the enclosure. In the centre there is generally a mortuary chapel, where the final words are said. From the chapel tiled walks lead out to the ovens. The plan is a very pretty one, and if the cemeteries were kept in good condition, it would be beautiful. But they are nearly always dirty and neglected.

In the open ground between the chapel and the sides, the poor people are rolled into graves so shallow that a little digging would soonexhume the body. The nichos, or ovens, are rented by the year; if the tenant’s surviving family are not prompt with the annual payment, the body is taken out, the bones cast ruthlessly over the back fence, and the premises once more declared vacant. When we first came, there used to be a great heap of these bones at the back of the Paco Cemetery in Manila, but so much was said about them that the Church grew sensitive and removed them. Our cemetery at Capiz also had its bone heap.

An American negress, a dressmaker who was working for me, told me that there was a petrified man, an American, in the Paco Cemetery, and that the body was on exhibition. She had been to see it, and it was wonderful. I had my doubts about the petrifying, but as I had to pass the cemetery on leaving her house, I asked the custodian at the gate if there was such a body there. He said that the body had just been removed by the city authorities to be placed in the “Cemeterio del Norte,” where there is a plot for paupers. The body was that of an American, buried in the cemetery five years before. His rent, five pesos a year, had been prepaid for five years, but his time had run out. When they came to take out the body, which had been embalmed, it was found in a remarkable state of preservation. The custodian said, with an irreligious grin, that in the old days the condition of the body would have been called a miracle, and a patron saint would have been made responsible, and all the people would have come, bearing lighted candles, to do honor to the saint; and he added regretfully that it was no good in these days. The Americans would say that it was because of their superior embalming process. “But what a chance missed!” he said, “and what a pity to let it go with no demonstration!” There are many ways of looking at the same thing. I could not help laughing, thinking of the negress. She said, “He’s sittin’ up there by the little church, lookin’ as handsome as life–and him petrified!”

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FILIPINOS AND THE DEPARTED

by fr. Leonardo N.Mercado, SVD (From World Mission, november 2010)

A theological dissertation was defended at Manila’s De la Salle University in April 2010. It is entitled “Undersanding Ancestor Reverence in the Benguet Kankanaey Indigenous Tradition: towards a Dialogue with Christian Traditions. The author, Leonila L.Taray, also a member of the Kankanaeys of the Cordilleras, writes that the century-old indigenous people traditional practices are still quite alive today. Although the findings of the study refer to Kankanaey society, we may also apply them to other indigenous people and lowland Christian Filipinos.

Taray writes that, even after death, the departed “remain as member of the family and the clan”, that “they have the power to grant blessings, shower prosperity, long life, and healthy life for their descendants on earth. It is also within their power to cause illness and misfortunes to the living.” Their mode of action is rooted in clan lineage, consanguinity and affinity.

The Kankanaeys also believe that the spirits of those who recently died are perceived to linger on earth for some time. That is why the living invite the departed to join in the rituals, to partake in eating and drinking in ordinary gatherings. This belief is shown when the living put in few drops of liquor before drinking.

In MetroManila, where the men informally gather in side alleys over drinks and finger food, a common practice in the gathering is to empty a few drops in the glass and pour the contents into the ground. We have heard on an incident where some professionals with PhDs, during a tennis break, poured out a drink to the spirits.

THE SEEN AND THE UNSEEN

Th Kankanaeys behave and act in the conviction that daily life is linked with social economic, and the religious. Because the departed and the living are integrated as one, religion permeates all aspects of life. Taray writes: “Those who lived in the past continue to relate with and affect the lives of those in the present; those in the sky world continue to join and bless those in the earth during performance of rituals or ceremonies and those in the underworld are enjoined likewise. Thus, the Benguet Kankanaeys perceive the world as an integrated world of the living and the dead. Humanity does not stand apart from nature.

While Greek-inspired Western theology speaks of the natural and the supernatural, the Kankanaeys and Filipino popular religiosity prefer to speak of the seen and unseen. This way of thinking  is also in the Creed: “We believe in one God, the Father, the Almighty, maker of heaven and earth , of all that is seen and unseen.”

That is the way Filipino popular religiosity has the practice of pasing-tabi. For instance, before throwing water outside the window even when nobody is seen to be around, the typical Filipino will say, “Tabi-po!” (please stop aside). The practice reflects the belief that the unseen spirits can get wet and perhaps take revenge for the act.

CONCEPT OF THE DEPARTED

Taray continues: “In general the Benguet people view death as a translocation of this life into the spirit world. It is seen as a shift from a personal’s earthly existence into a new life in the spirit world. It is believed that undergoing such a shift meant the dead needs the support and remembrance of the living relatives.”

Death, therefore, is not the end of life but the beginning of a new life. Traditional catholic practice considers the day of one’s death as that person’s dies natalis or birthday, where one is born into eternal life. The preface of the requiem Mass asserts this belief: “Lord, for your faithful people, life is changed, not ended. When the body of our earthly dwelling lies in death, we gain an everlasting dwelling place in heaven.”

We hear consistent reports saying that, shortly before a sick person dies, departed relatives appear in order to fetch her. The word in Tagalog is  sundo  , as fetching somebody for a trip.

FOOD OFFERINGS

While western Christians offer flowers, the Asian of various religions have food offerings for the spirits and the departed, An essential part of the Benguet Kankanaey rituals involve killing of animals (chicken, pig, cow, carabao and dog), and the offering of tapey or rice wine to the deities, spirits and ancestors. Taray continues: “A majority of rituals are performed to the spirit of deceased kin, to ward off sickness or avert bad luck in farming or in mining.” The rituals illustrate the belief that the departed continue living in the other world.

Food offerings are not only for the indigenous people because Filipino Christians, especially in the grassroots level, continue the indigenous practice. The three biggest Philippine languages have their terms for food offering:  alay  in Tagalog,  halad in Cebuano Visayan and  atang in Ilocano. During wakes, on can find usually a plate with food for the dead. The food offering can also be found on the family altar which has holy picture and statues. According to Taray, the Kankanaeys “believe in sustaining and maintaining the needs of their spirit-relative during her or his journey by offering money, food clothing, tapey rice wine and providing working tools with which the departed will continue working in the next life. The offerings also give the departed the moral strength and the emotional support to go on till he or she reaches the ancestral home.”

A common Filipino practice is that a person who travel takes along things as courier or as a messenger. In the squatter areas of MetroManila, I have seen the practice of the bereaved putting some things inside the coffin with the conviction that the departed will take them to the next world.

In the cursory comparison above between the traditional religion and the Filipino lowland Christianity, the contrast is not like between white and black. The contrast on the part of Christians has gradations, that is, from Christian in dress but the spirit of tradition to being totally westernized in Christian practices. But if the ordinary Filipino Christian is to be taken as an average Filipino living a popular religiosity , this group certainly reflects the spirit of traditional religion.

INDIGENOUS PEOPLE PRACTICES AND THEOLOGY

The foregoing phenomena reflect the Christian doctrine of the communion of saints, which is mentioned in the Apostles’ Creed. It means the spiritual solidarity between the faithful on earth, the souls in purgatory and the saints in heaven – all members of the mystical body with Christ as the head. While Jesus Christ is the only mediator, worship (latria) is given to God alone while the saints are given honor (dulia). And with only the canonized and beatified can be honored universally, there is no prohibition in asking the help from non-canonized departed relatives.

Because of the similarity between traditional religion and Christianity, the indigenous people found no difficult in accepting Christianity. The Spanish missionaries, for example, substituted the ancestor veneration with veneration of saints. Even if the Filipino indigenous people accepted Christianity, the inspiration continued the spirit of traditional religion. And one finds that even in MetroManila. The foregoing model would be a dynamic equivalence or adaptation.

How does one look theologically at the Filipino practices about the dead? The pre-Vatican II Theology looked at the rest of the world from the viewpoint of scholastic-inspired theology. That is why, after a long-simmering controversy between the followers of the famous Jesuit, Matteo Ricci and his opponents, Pope Clement XI in 1704 condemned the Chinese veneration to ancestors and to Confucius. However, Pope Pius XII revoked this prohibition in 1939. So, today, Chinese Catholics have no qualms in offering incense sticks to their departed even during Holy Mass.

PREPARATION FORTH GOSPEL

Another theological model is to look at other cultures as preparatio evangelica, as preparation for the gospel. Some Church Fathers considered Greek culture and writings like the Old testament wich find their fulfillment in Christianity. For example the Roman missal has the sequence entitled Dies Irae  , a thirteenth century latin poem used for Requiem Masses. It still found in the Liturgy of the Hours. A part of it reads:  Dies irae, dies ila / solvet saeclum in favilla, / teste David cum Sybylla. (The day of wrath, that dreadful day / Shall the whole world in ashes lay. / As David and the Sybil say.) The sibyls (from the Greek, sybilla, were the women (in the mythology) who prophesied as some (mitical) holy sites like Delpi. The medieval theologians put the sibyls in the same level as David and as Old Testament counterparts in prophesying the Last Judgment.

The  ancient Church Fathers gave Christian interpretation to Homer and Plato. Socrates was considered a type of Christ. The writings of Virgil were considered as non-Jewish counterpart of the Old Testament. If the Fathers looked at Greek culture as old Testament which finds fulfillment in Christ and the New Testament, might the same ay of thinking be on the culture of traditional religion?

Hoe ever, a further development has been to have another theological model, namely the incarnation. In this model, humanity and divinity have a mutual give and take. Christianity then takes a position not as a teacher but as a dialogue partner. Both partners stand as equal. Vatican II (AdGentes,10) states: “If the Church is to be in a position to offer all men the mystery of salvation and the life brought by God, then it must implant itself among all these groups in the same way that Christ, by His incarnation, committed Himself to the particular social and cultural circumstances of the men among whom He lived.”

Pope John Paul II in Redemptoris Missio (no.56) writes that, in interreligious dialogue, both partners must be open to each other for mutual enrichment: “Those engaged in this dialogue must be consistent with their own religion traditions and convictions, and be open to understanding those of the other party without pretense or close-mindedness, but with truth, humility and frankness, knowing that dialogue can enrich each other.”

If Christianity seriously takes interreligious dialogue, then the voice of indigenous people and their practices must also be studied. The foregoing ideas point to a direction which has to be mined.

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Scare of death

Western psychiatrists, with statistical data in hand, seem surprising to the continued growth of a mental illness that has been called “panic attacks syndrome.” It is characterized by a terrible and uncontrollable fear, psychic and somatic tremor, sweating, fast heart and especially unbearable anguish of imminent death. It strikes, mostly, when you are alone and away from safe havens like overseas workers: for example, making calls to the loved one, that acts as a psychological refuge, can immediately calm the crisis.

The idea of death has been stripped of all its rituals and thus the sense that assimilates, in pre-technological peoples, to other moments of transition: birth, maturity, marriage. Death is the only unpronounceable and social taboo. When it grasps your life you lose the size of the group, the community and the collective identity and separation anxiety erupts unpredictably and disturb a balance too artificial to be true.
One day, watching a dense pack of tiny and colorful tropical fish in the lagoon of a calm sea, I was amazed (as I believe everyone) to see the perfectly synchronized with which every little fish veered holding exactly parallel to other fish and in the same direction.

If you sink a hand in the herd, for breaking the unity , the group maintain its harmonious organization and goes away to compose again itself, a few meters further, as if nothing had happened. Even its sinuous and mobile form seems to a huge colorful fish, agile and ordered as a single organism. Yeah, because those were “small fish” and not “fish” and, contrary perspective illusion of the Western consciousness, the plural is declined before the singular. First they are the little fish and the little fish does not exist by itself; if that happens his conquered singularity will disappear into the jaws of a scorpion fish family, lurking behind a rock. The group, bonds, collective in nature synchronies defends the essential boundaries of survival.

Modern society with little suffering and very few rites seems to have forgotten this, and this removal emerging phenomena seems incomprehensible. In a book called “Treatment of affection”, it has been described the extraordinary survival and cure of cancerous patients (hastily considered incurable by the technological medicine and so isolated from others healthy people) because invaded by the unspeakable taboo of death.

Immersed in a release condition and genuine affection, like that of the therapeutic groups, organized by self-help, “active as before,” many and many patients improved so amazing, thanks to mechanisms that our science calls “suggestive “,” psychosomatic “or” placebo “, to use a label. What is the point, on the other hand, for a seriously ill person to entrust his existence to a doctor who treats convicted irreversibly, and test anxiety irrepressible front man taboo, because it is seen as already a dead person? Hence the paradoxes of a medicine that puts between the doctor and the person suffering the watertight bulkhead of laboratory data, in addition to plastic and metal of diagnostic and therapeutic instrumentation. New ghosts, like AIDS or other similar illness, make this trench unbridgeable.
To heal or to die well, it needs dignity and identity, which are the product of an extensive network of relationships too often forgotten and removed.

It happens to hear modern educators horrify regarding the old peasant practice to let the whole family, including children, to stand around the dying person. It is the perception of the physical group and its strong continuity that our modern civilization seems to have lost forever.
And from this loss and the subsequent insecurity are coming new kind of ‘holy men and gurus’, esoteric and pseudo religious leaders, mothers and the sisters never been sisters, and fathers-masters and padrinos of all kinds. Jacobins or libertarians judges would be not enough to neutralize them, nor the allegations of plagiarism or circumvention.
All of these, in absence of a tangible Religion, will give answers maybe too rickety to urgent needs to be repressed, in spite of a reason that in a world crowded with people and posts ( but in reality with no contacts and real face to face communication)  seems to give answers. Apparently.

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Burial Feng Shui (AKA Yin House Feng Shui)

In ancient times, the emperors would typically commence preparing his tomb and its Feng Shui during the early years of his ascend to the throne. The actual construction of the tomb will take many years besides locating an auspicious grave site to begin with. The Burial or Yin House Feng Shui premises was a major factor underlying the long reign of the different dynasties. The impact of Burial or Yin House Feng Shui premises can be hundreds of years. The potency of Burial or Yin House Feng Shui is simply Amazing!

Modern days Chinese Metaphysics practitioners who are generally familiar with the appreciation of Yang House Feng Shui or Feng Shui for the living are not necessarily knowledgeable about the potency or secrets of the Burial or Yin House Feng Shui. Such arcane knowledge / insights are not made available in classic textbooks as it is only imparted via verbal transmission passed down the line through their own school’s lineage. Most modern days Chinese Metaphysics practitioners merely pour through the ancient texts to make endless futile attempts to decipher the secrets hidden therein. It is not something common-sensical in the first instance.

However, the ancient texts are filled with cryptic-coded characters which are personalized notes only intelligible to the authors themselves. Only their loyalty disciples can have the privilege to decode from with the “key” revealed to them by the experienced Chinese Metaphysics Masters who in turn received it from their predecessors.

Broadly, the residential and occupational properties of the living persons are called Yang dwellings or Yang houses. Burial sites and tombs, which are dwellings for the dead are called Yin dwellings or Yin house. The Yin domains also include temples. Feng Shui aka Chinese Metaphysics Scholars are still debating which came first, Yang house or Yin house. Yang and Yin house Feng Shui are complementary and are like two sides of the same coin. The underlying principles are the same, only their application differs according to their different schools of practices & research validity along their respective lineage.

The Chinese believe that desirably auspicious burial sites allow the dead to rest in peace, ensuring a favorable reincarnation, and can also secure the happiness and prosperity of future generations of descendants. Thus, the need to be buried at a site with good Feng Shui is traditionally very important to the Chinese. The Chinese people believe that a body inauspiciously buried will bring misfortune to the living for at least next three generations. However, if the deceased were to be buried in the correctly aligned orientation with respect to the dead, with the correct environment and at the right time, the family can prosper for many generations to come.

There are many different explanations offered that human life is not only just flesh, blood and bones. They believe human have energy called spirit or soul. There are others think that human has qi (loosely translated as vital energy force ). Different people from different background and cultural experience will have their own interpretations and invariably they make a good attempt at describing it to their best insights.

In the Feng Shui context, this “energy” is transformed to something called DNA signature. If the human remains are buried at auspicious location or site, then a chain reaction will be triggered off in which the earth’s magnetic energy is modulated by the Qi of the interred human. Thus, a signal is activated to be in their right bandwidth with the deceased person’s descendants where they have familial affinity. This deceased person’s DNA signature will then provide the linkages to the descendants with similar DNA signature. Another analogy to illustrate this point would be only through specific tuning of the radio signal, will the descendants with similar DNA signature be able to receive a specific broadcast frequency.

Thus if the burial site and time of burial are auspicious, the signal activated will be auspiciously positive. The descendants picking up this ‘signal’ will be blessed with good health and good fortune. However, if a burial site is inauspicious, a negatively aligned ‘signal’ will be activated and the descendants will be inauspiciously impacted.

Selecting an auspicious site for burial is highly paramount. If the Yang and Yin qi at a particular meridian spot on the site are well balanced and harmonious, there will be sheng qi or growth qi. This is positive and strong qi and will lead to a good burial site. Conversely, if the earth qi at a burial site that is inauspiciously out of balance and heavily infested with negative attributes, this site will be highly undesirable for burial.

Ultimately, any authentic Chinese Metaphysics Practitioner who is worth its salt, will need to have a good mastery of both Yang House Feng Shui and Burial or Yin House Feng Shui knowledge, insights and hidden secrets not made available to the general readers of ancient classics. It is only through established lineage could one truly learn the authentic “Da Vinci Code” to uncover its potency. In the final analysis, Yang and Yin Feng Shui are like two sides of the same coin. Knowing only one part of the body of knowledge will result in moderately effective solutions at best. At worst, it will be like a surgeon who just had a “successful” major operation but the patient still remains dead. I will leave the conclusion to you and the kind of outcome is up to you to decide.

May the Auspicious Qi Be With You!

Garrett Lee Founder, Ancient Feng Shui – http://www.ancientfengshui.com

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Estracts from : The Religious Dimensions of Some Philippine Folktale

By Francisco Demetrio , S,J.

Whence comes death ? Universal folklore is rich with  myths depicting the origin of death. Frazer has classified these myths into 4 types:20 1 . The type of the Two Messengers especially common in Africa. God sent the chameleon to the mythical ancestors with the message that they would be immortal, and he also sent the lizard with the message that they would die. The chameleon was dilatory and so the lizard arrived ahead of him, and delivered her message. Another variant tells how the chameleon arrived first but fell to stammering while delivering his message. The weaver-bird, a lying bird, came and said to the gathered multitude that God had said men would die “like the roots of the aloe.” Only then did the chameleon remember his message, but too late. For the magpie intervened and said that “the first speech was the wise one.” That is why men have died since then. The second type:

The Waxing and Wanning Moon. A legend of one of the natives of South-East Australia tells how there was a time when all animals were men and women, and some of them died. But the moon used to say ‘‘You up again,” and they came to life again. But at that time there was an old man who said,“Let them remain dead.” Then none ever came to life again except the moon, which still continued to do so. Another variant says that the moon once sent an insect to men saying:

“Go to men and tell them, as I die and dying live; so you shall also die, and dying live•” The insect went, but a hare overtook her. Having known the message from the insect the hare proceeded ahead of her; but the message he delivered to men was the opposite. He returned to the moon to report what he had told men. The moon was greatly wrought at the hare, took

  1. Mircea Eliade, op cit, passim.
  2. Mircea Eliade, From Primitives To £,en\ A Thematic Source Book on the History of Religions, New York,Harper and Row, 1967 pp. 139-144.

Paul Radin, ed_ African Folktales And Sculpture, (New York,1964), pp. 60-63.

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up a piece of wood and struck the hare on the nose. That is why its lip has been split. The third type: The Serpent and His Cast Skin. Men were said never to die before. But when they grew old they simply cast off their skins like snakes and crabs and their youth was restored. A woman once went into the river to shed off her skin. She watched it float down the river and get caught against a stick. She returned to her house, but to her dismay, the child she had left behind refused to recognize her, crying that her mother was an old woman not like the young “stranger.” To pacify the child the woman returned to the river, recovered her old skin and put it on again. Since then men stopped to cast their skin and to die.

The fourth type is that of Stone and the Banana or the Type of The Two Bundles,one of which contained Life,the other Death. Among the Indonesians we are told that in the beginning the sky was very close to the earth. Every day God would lower down a rope containing his gifts to men. Once God lowered a stone. But the first parents would have nothing to do with it. They complained to God for his doing so. God raised the stone up. After a while, he lowered the rope again and at its end was a banana. Our first parents ran up to it and took it. Then a voice said from heaven: “Because you have chosen the banana your life shall be like its life. When the banana tree has offsprings, the parent stem dies; so shall you die and your children shall step into your place. Had you chosen the stone, your life would have been like the life of the stone changeless and immortal•”

So they died. There are other two types which must be added: namely,Death as a Result of the Arbitrary and Cruel Act of a Mythical (giant, or an old man and sometimes) Theriomorphic Being (the magpie or Urbura) as in African and Australian myths; or the little bird, Tiwakawaka who could not contain her laughter as she saw Maui emerging from the mouth of the ancestral giantess, Hinenui-te-po (Polynesia). The laughter woke the ancestress up and she killed Maui. The fifth type is Death as the Result of Man’s Transgressing a Divine Command. This is especially so in the case of the biblical account of the origin of death, as well as in the Bisayan myth as recounted by Loarca and Pavon. From the account of these early chroniclers it would appear that death came into the world as a result of man’s transgressing a command or commands which were however not explicitly stated, but which are inferred from the subsequent and resultant punishment. These implicit commands seem to have been:1 ) Never bring a live shark to shore; (2) Do not cry over a dead fish,“The god Captan was displeased at these obsequies to a fish,” (Loarca). In Pavon we read that after the death of the fish Capantaan,the first man wept bitterly invoking the god because of this monstrosity, for until then he had never seen any death, nor had there been any death. His cry was heard by the gods Captan and Maguayen who afterwards sent animals to ascertain who the dead one was. It seems that here, too, the sending of the messenger to inquire after the dead carries an implicit sanction against crying and mourning over a fish that had died. The third implicit command seems to have been this: Do not maltreat a black cat. It was because a black cat had helped itself generously to the feast which Capantaan and his wife had prepared for their friends at the burial of the fish, that Capantaan struck it with a stick. It went howling to Captan and Maguayen complaining of his maltreatment at the hands of Capantaan. So the gods launched a thunderbolt from heaven, which killed Capantaan.

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A number of points must be underscored at this juncture which will bring out the religious nature of these narratives. First of all, these myths alert us of death as something that somehow or other is an extrinsic factor that has been inserted into the fabric of life through some mistake (meant or otherwise), through outright cruelty or meanness on the part of an enemy, or through an unthinking rashness to grasp at a lesser good which was presented in its immediacy—the pacification of the child who refused to recognize its mother who had been rejuvenated and who longed for her as an old woman, or the choice of the first parents in favor of the banana against the stone,or the attractiveness of the fruit presented by one beloved, as in the case of Adam and Eve, or whether it be the inordinate grief of Capantaan at the death of the fish and his

21 .Jose Maria Pavon, The Robertson Translations of the Pavon Manuscripts of 1838—1839 D: Stories of the Indios Of Olden and of Today. (Chi­ cago Philippine Studies Program, Transcript No. 5-DS, pp. 26-27). Cf. also Miguel de Loarca. Relacion de las Islas Filipinas. Manila (?), ca.1580. In :Blair and Robertson,The Philippine Islands,V a 123—125)

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hasty hand hitting the special pet of Captan and Maguayen— the black cat—,a lesser good immediately present as against the more desirable good of continued life which appeared so far and distant then. In other words, there is in these myths an unspoken, though sometimes explicitly mentioned, sentiment that death should really not be in the first place. Then, too, the fact that immortality is depicted as having been lost once, somehow or other nurses the hope that perhaps one, some way or other, may be able to recover life even if it had been lost in death. As a matter of fact this mythic insight becomes expressed dramatically in the rites of initiation where one is made to undergo the tortures of physical death, as it were in order that he may be born to another kind of life: the life of the spirits. The same structure of life through a passage of death is again found in the various rites and rituals at the beginning and end of the year, at springtime, at the curing rites, as well as in the initiation to the office of shamanism, medicine man or hero.

For as Eliade has aptly written: “ the archaic evaluation of death as the supreme means of spiritual re­ generation constitute an initiatic scenario that extends into the great religions of the world, including Christianity. This is the fundamental mystery, resumed, relived, and reinterpreted in every new religious experience. But let us consider more closely the ultimate consequences of this mystery: if we already know death here below, if we die innumerable times, continually, to be reborn to something else, it follows that man already sees, here below on earth, something which does not belong to the earth, which partakes of the sacred, of the godhead; he sees, let us say, a beginning of immortality, he obtains a greater and greater share of immortality . . .”22

22 ‘Mystery and Spiritual Regeneration,’’ in Man and Transformations,Papers from the Eranos Yearbooks (Pantheon, New York, 1964),pp. 36).

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Death as blindeness

The blindness of Oedipus is synonymous of a retreat from the world, an introspective tendency, but it is also the extreme attempt to “reject” of a man who has witnessed his suffering too much and too lucidly.

The same root my of the word mythos indicates the act of leaving ajar to see better. The myth offers us an intuitive knowledge, which is given to us by chance, and which is very different from the rational understanding of the “Logos”.

Oedipus does not challenge the invisible like Prometheus or Icarus, but is touched by the invisible already at the moment of his birth, on which weigh the words of the oracle to his father, Laius.

Behind the Sophoclean affair there is indeed an oracle which announces the tragedy, and above all the presence of the Sphinx – as an archetypal image of death itself.

The meeting between Oedipus and the Sphinx represents the danger of the totalizing assimilation between person and his destiny, an identification which at the time of the Greeks was inadmissible as it presupposed a contact between human and divine. This relationship is prevented – according to Calasso – by the “veil”, that is, by the natural and salvific distance between what is visible and what is invisible. The fault of Oedipus lies precisely in having lifted this veil and his condemnation is the permanence in the invisible: his blindness.

Yet Oedipus’s most guilty action he accomplishes it is when he helps to die a man who, overwhelmed by the encounter with the Sphinx, begs him for this grace. It is an action of great importance because handling life and death is the prerogative of God. Oedipus then becomes the “godless” par excellence, because he is himself the incarnation of his destiny.

If the secret of life is what we lack to become immortal, what condemnation to be immortal by being blind to life.

In the Sophoclean tragedy we find another interesting topic of reflection. Let us not forget that the enigma that the Sphinx proposes to passers-by is not an ordinary riddle, but what we would today define an “existential” question. The animal that in the morning walks on four legs, at noon with two and in the evening with three is exactly the man. The stakes is the death: the question, which if the passerby can not answer he will be devoured; or if not him the author of the question. When Oedipus finds the answer, the Sphinx will throw herself from the cliff. We can then refer to the reading of Francoise Dastur – in Death: An Essay of Finitude (1994) – and analyze Oedipus as a prototype of the philosopher, that is, one who wants to know the truth and in particular the truth about death.

(Aldo Carotenuto, The eclipse of the sight, 1997)

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Death and Burial in Waray Culture (From The Waray Culture in the Philippines by Joycie Alegre UP Visayas)

Death

When someone dies, relatives and friends immediately come to the side of the bereaved. Funerary rituals and arrangements for the vigil are planned and are carried out by the relatives and friends.   These practices could be very elaborate depending on the sense of tradition and economic status of the family of the dead.

The soul’s journey to heaven begins upon death and lasts for nine years when the soul would be at its ultimate state of purity.  The rituals for the dead are temporally marked — the tapos han linusaran or nine days after the day of death; tapos han ika-kwarenta or forty days after the day of death; tagmo — the completion of the one year cycle since death which is first death anniversary; and the tapos han ika-siyam nine years death anniversary.  Novena prayers are offered to help the soul be purged of sins and be lifted up to heaven.

It is traditionally believed that during the first three days, “nag-aalang pa an kalag”. The soul/spirit is awkward and is dis-oriented – not knowing how he/ she will behave without a physical body.  It is during this period that he/she tries to interact with his loved ones as if he/she were still alive.  But they could no longer see him/her.  On the third day, it is believed that the spirit manifests through an apparition, a dream or some other form of contact.  The ninth day is commonly called the tapos (literally meaning, “end”).  During forty days, it is believed that the spirit remains among the living but his or her state is gradually elevated to a higher realm of being especially when prayers are offered for his/her eternal rest. The fortieth day is also called a tapos.   After one year,  the spirit is detached from  the earth plane.  The yearly death anniversary is called pasulit in Northern Samar.  The ninth death anniversary is the final stage of the purified spirit’s journey. The beloved dead believed to be completely apart from the world of living is  definitely in heaven.

Upon death, members of the family are given time to be with their beloved dead before it is embalmed.  For the Catholic Waray, a priest is called to administer the  blessing of the dead.  The corpse is bathed and clothed with formal wear or whatever was the favorite outfit or one chosen by the dead when he or she was still alive.  The mamaratbat or traditional prayer leader is called for to begin prayers on the day of death. Novena prayers begin on the second day and continue on for nine days.  Masses are offered.  Sympathizers offer abuloy (cash contributions) which is either handed over to the family leader or dropped into the abuloy bowl. Food offering to the dead is set up at the altar.  The dead is lovingly cared for and always has company all throughout the vigil or wake. The dead should not be left alone during the wake.  At least one person should stay awake to guard the dead at all times and especially through the night lest evil spirits would take the dead away.

Upon their arrival at the wake, sympathizers stand before the coffin and say their prayers orally or silently.  They have the option to view the corpse.  Then they approach the members of the family of the dead to console them through touch, embrace and  conversation.  Snacks and meals are served to all who visit the wake and pay their respects to the dead or console the family.  Narratives about the cause of death and the last moments in life of the dead are shared by the members of the family.

Taboos are observed in Waray funerals. Visitors must not take their leave from the bereaved family when they end their visit.  The bereaved must not conduct their visitors to the door when they leave.  Members of the family must not bathe in the course of the wake.  Sweeping the floor must not be done.  Melted candles must be completely removed before another candle replaces it.

Pagtubas must be done before the coffin is removed from the venue of the wake.  This is done by immersing leaves of aslum, kilala, kalipayan and malunggay (Moringa oleifera Lam.) in a basin of water.  The leaves are squeezed by hand so the juices would blend in the water.  Then the leaves are held and shaken to so that the venue would be sprinkled with the water.  When the coffin would be transferred to the church or to the burial site, members of the family must leave the house or the vigil venue before the coffin is brought out.  The coffin must be so positioned so that the feet of the dead would lead the way and not the head.  This will ensure that the spirit of the dead will no longer return to the house as if he/she were alive.  But before the coffin is brought out, the children of a dead parent must suhot  or pass underneath the coffin.  The baby is made to lakbay, to jump over the coffin. This will protect their children from fear of the dead.  When they leave the Church, the family members must not follow the coffin upon exit. They should take another exit path.  A mother whose child died and will be buried must not attend the burial.  Clothes, blankets and pillows used by the dead may be buried along with the dead.  Flowers are thrown into the grave by sympathizers attending the burial to send off the dead and to free them of  pains and problems.  It is believed that the dead can help the living bring all these to the grave. Snacks are served to those who attended the burial.

If the family could afford it, sympathizers are invited to partake of food with the bereaved at their home or in some chosen venue after the burial.  At the door, the basin of water with the leaves is prepared for the guests to wash their hands with.  This is an act of purification – negative elements such as illness, bad luck, misfortune or death would be cast away.

In case the surviving member of the family who is closest to the dead (e.g. the  wife in the case of a husband’s death) would be left alone at home after all have returned to their places of residence,  the concerned family members would make sure that the lonesome bereaved would have a companion at home.  For instance, with the death of the father, a married daughter who leaves in her own house would join her mother in their ancestral house or the mother would transfer to the daughter’s new home.  The Waray cannot stand being alone at the loneliest of  times.

Although death is a sad occasion, it is a time for relatives and close friends to converge and have a reunion of sort.  While they cry their hearts out in grief over their loss, they recall and reminisce the past and also update each other with their lives.  Those who reside out of town or abroad would come home to pay their respects to their dead and console the immediate family and are themselves consoled.  In this rare  gathering of family and clan, sometimes old conflicts are resolved but there are times when past resentments  re-surface and ill will would aggravate and at worst, family ties are severed.  Generally though, there is convivial warmth, shared laughter and love expressed with each other. Reunion picnics at the beach and outings are held for those who have been away for long.  Death becomes an occasion for renewal and re-affirmation of family identity and of life especially for the future generation.